… a lil’ romance now and then.

 

It was a little perturbing to me, to read on Twitter how little faith women had in men when it comes to wooing, or rather, when it comes to being romantic.

Perhaps it’s simply luck that I have oft been privileged to have experienced the

blushing, the butterflies, and the embarrassment (if I may say so) of a romantic ‘nothing’, ‘something’, ‘everything’.

So after hearing the ladies complain – “Men don’t know what it is to be romantic” – and the men saying “Women don’t appreciate the small things that we do.” I felt it was my ‘duty’ to write about it… the answer to a post featured on my dear friend and fellow blogger Mamachel‘s site. (READ POST HERE)

I’ve decided to share it with you, my readers, so you can give your two cents on the subject and perhaps share your personal experiences with your loved ones. What do you do to show someone that you care? And what IS romance anyway?

Check out Mamachel’s page and read my guest post FOUND!!! ALIVE & WELL: A LITTLE THING CALLED ROMANCE

Until next time…

24 Things…

Browsing articles online today, I found a feature written by Glamour.com writer Erin Meanley titled “31 things I wish I’d known about dating when I was 21”. Meanley is a “dating blogger” and though I don’t necessarily agree with some of the things posted, I definitely found them amusing.

I pulled a few for your reading pleasure…

Take a look and give me your opinions. I’m especially looking forward to hearing from Mamachell & PsykeMike 🙂

24 Things I Kinda Already Knew…

1. Sometimes guys flirt with you or pay attention to you because it makes them feel good about themselves. (Hey, we do it, too.)

2. Guys want to get busy more than anything. They’ll say anything to close the deal.

3. It’s shocking how much guys will talk about marriage. Until there’s a ring on your finger, it will be better for you if you pretend you’re deaf.

4. It’s better not to lift a finger in the beginning.

5. In the early stages, giving him presents is too much. Generosity looks desperate to guys. You may be a great shopper and gift-wrapper; it may be his birthday and you may be wild about birthdays — even still, he’ll think you’re just wild about him. Too wild.

6. Guys just do not think like girls. I wish I’d had a brother. Real boys are nothing like the boys in movies.

7. They might take a decade to mature. Don’t hope they’ll grow up or be ready in the next six months.

8. Learn to cook. Learn to cook well. I see now that it would have won me a lot of points. A LOT.

9. Just because he might be smarter than you or more talented at certain things doesn’t mean he’s your servant and won’t mind doing all your homework/research/chores.

10. Guys get resentful, too.

11. You’re special, unique, and important, but you’re not a princess — no matter what Daddy says.

12. It’s okay to say no. It’s more than okay. It’s always okay. If he stops calling (and many, many, many will), you’re only weeding out the guys who aren’t truly interested in you as a person. Time saved!

13. Playing it safe guarantees you’ll have more time and energy to think about your grades or your work. Less drama in your life will always be better and healthier for you.

14. You deserve to be treated like a human being.

15. Your wants and needs are just as important as his, and if you don’t express them because you think it will scare him away, then you’re saying you don’t count as much as he does.

16. You can’t force chemistry. If you like him as a friend, the attraction might grow, but if it doesn’t, don’t force it. And don’t waste his time.

17. Ease up on the sauce. Alcohol clouds your judgment.

18. No boyfriend-girlfriend relationship starts with a 1 a.m. booty text.

19. When a guy has taken you to Applebee’s five times and you say you want to treat him, he’ll be psyched. But secretly he’ll freak out if you take him to Ruth’s Chris, even just the one teeny time. Don’t try to match him one Ruth’s Chris for five Applebee’s. Take him out, but go to T.G.I. Friday’s.

20. My mom always said, “Men don’t think.” I thought she meant, “They are mistaken in their thoughts.” But they’re just not thinking anything at all. About you. They’re watching the game. That’s why they haven’t called.

21. Never underestimate the quality of “interesting.” Men want someone interesting. They really do. Find some hobbies.

22. What are you hoping to gain by hooking up with this guy? If the answer is “him,” that’s a bad deal for you. “The woman gives herself, the man adds to himself by taking her” (de Beauvoir 659).

23. Expectations? They’ll ruin every dating experience you have.

24. You will never understand men. Just try to understand yourself.

My personal favourite is # 24…and all I have to say is AMEN!!

See full article here ——> http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/article.aspx?cp-documentid=23779082&GT1=32023

And check out more from Erin at http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/blogs/single-ish/

What Goes Around…

Life is so funny sometimes.

I remember some months ago, hearing from someone in my office, that one of our clients recently left her husband for another man. Said client apparently met the fellow through work, and I’m guessing, felt he was a better option given his popularity, status and ‘whatnot’.

So, fast forward to the present… On Saturday I went to an event where I happened upon the client – WITH new boy toy in tow!! Of course we’re social acquaintances, so I greeted her and then went back to my friends.

Maybe it’s my fault. We were all sitting side by side at the bar, maybe about 5 or so of us… and I was close enough to Mr. Mention, that my arm was practically touching his, so I felt the need to make casual conversation. I asked him what he was drinking, joking that it looked like lemonade, and adding that I didn’t know they served that at the bar.

Who told me to do that? Was I flirting? I didn’t think so…. hmmmm…

The long and short of the story is that by the time his ‘girlfriend’ got up, and returned with news that their ‘booth’ was ready, he didn’t want to leave the spot.

Reluctantly he went, returning a couple times after that to buy drinks from our bartender. Would you believe this sparked rage in his girlfriend? She accused him of being a little ”too attached to the bartender, asking why he kept coming out to see her.

All I have to say is, women need to be more observant. We also need to stop jumping to conclusions. Had she not overreacted, she would have probably known that he and the bartender were friends before they met. She would also have seen that he wasn’t trying to pick up the bartender, but was simply asking her to get MY number for him.

Did I mention that the woman cussed the bartender, to the point where the bartender asked to talk to me about it? LOL!! Maybe that’s what made me give her my phone number…though I really have no intention of acting upon anything. The whole situation sounds like a recipe for disaster!!!

There is no moral to this story. I just question why one would leave dem ‘good-good’ husband fi Mr.Popularity, who probably asks girls for their numbers via the bartender every time they go out?? (I’m just saying). Ladies, be thankful for what you have.

I’m not saying that you can’t take a chance for ‘love’, but please…be realistic.